What is vibrational energy of love? What do you do when the shit hits the fan!?  Do you stay present with your partner?  Do you stay OPEN and connected through love, or do you shut down, withhold and try to protect yourself?

This is a WIFEY WEDNESDAY ME TIME video post with Love and Relationship Coach Heather Hundhausen!  I work with women who struggle between trying to control and protect their way through life and knowing they want to surrender into their softness and femininity.

What is the Vibrational Energy of LOVE and how can you use it to make your relationship awesome?

As a powerful, world changing woman, I know that catching a little time for yourself can be a challenge, and I promise to deliver exciting and useful information on how to let down your walls, open to love and create peace in your home.

Of course, as you learn to surrender to your true, beautifully authentic self, you create a brighter vibrational energy, which is your own INNER LIGHT, which of course, influences the world around you.

Here’s exactly what I’m going to share: The Vibrational Energy of LOVE

Where they are/Problem:  

You are struggling in your relationship. Everything seems hard. One person is shouting and yelling and the other one is withholding and withdrawing.

You are both pointing fingers and blaming one another. It hurts every time you communicate and you just want to get back to loving each other.

Where they want to be/Solution:  

You want to relax in each other’s arms again. You want to have a conversation without being triggered, and you want to feel the love FLOW again.

How they get there:

Access LOVE LOVE LOVE. Concentrate on it. Open to it. Send it OUT!

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1) Love Heals Everything:

We are made up of vibrational energy. It is a REAL palpable thing. You can make love with your partner when he’s half way across the country. When you fantasize about someone, that is thought, and energy follows thought, so that person, if they are sensitive, can FEEL you! It will make you re-think watching sexy videos or fantasizing about someone who is not yours.

The first time I made love …

The first time I made love with my previous boyfriend was psychically. It was the wildest thing. We actually arranged a time, and then did it without using the phone, etc… Then when I saw him LIVE in person, we discussed it, and we both discussed how he wasn’t willing to move all the way in at first because he had a concern that he needed to clear with me first. I said, I noticed, and I was just being with you.

Moving in Slowly …

I couldn’t hear the content of the conversation he was trying to tell me psychically, but I could feel the energy of withdrawal and the need to move in slowly. It was AMAZING to talk with him later and to realize he was having the same experience as I was through vibrational energy.

Being PRESENT

Mike is out of town right now, and I can feel him when he enters into me energetically. It isn’t necessarily sexually, but it’s definitely PRESENT and I can feel his heart in mine. He will literally say “BABY!” And ask me to slow down and get present with him. We will do some tantric breathing or just send each other vibrational energy, and we can each instantly feel it.

So, practice opening your heart. Practice sending your vibrational energy to your love. Practice opening to receive each other.

2) Let down your walls:

Example of a couple – He was PISSED. Raging pissed. Yelling and blaming and being a 2 year old. She was a client with me for about 6 months, and she did a great job of “being the nest” as I’ve talked about many times. As we slowly showed him the patterns of behavior that we not working (the yelling, the blaming, the poking) he started to express himself differently and some really RAW and VULNERABLE stuff came out.

I love You … Not?

I asked her what she wanted to do, and she said, “1 part wants to hug him, the other part thinks he’s not my responsibility,”

I asked, “which one feels like your heart is open and loving?”

Limiting Beliefs

Obviously, she hugged and loved him. And she started to encourage him and raise him up with her words. As she did that, he started realizing that he wasn’t able to open because of his limiting beliefs. Which we will now work on.

Love Can Move Mountains

It is JUST SIMPLY AMAZING what love can do.  It was able to open this couple up to each other so they could truly SEE themselves and each other.

They became an offering of love, instead of a demand or an insistence of behavior. This will instantly change everything in the relationship as you stay centered and focused on it.

Access LOVE LOVE LOVE. Concentrate on it. Open to it. Send it OUT! Click To Tweet

3) KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES:

So many people are confused and afraid of their own anger. They are afraid to hurt someone with it, or they are afraid that someone will react negatively if they access it.

Anger is not a scary energy. Rage is a scary energy. Blame and resentment are scary. But anger is a protective energy. Click To Tweet

The Energy of Anger

I recently did a hypnosis session on a client who was TERRIFIED OF ANGER.

When we went into hypnosis, she experienced inappropriate behavior of a family member. All we did was center herself on her own knowing of what was right and wrong, and connected her to her true self and LOVE. She brought up her love REALLY big, and allowed herself to BASK in it.

Saying No

Then, I asked her to have the threatening situation come in, and for her to say NO to it, and to say FUCK OFF.

She did great. And, at the end, she described anger as stable, peaceful, safe, a relief, open and light!!!

THIS IS WHAT THE ENERGY OF ANGER DOES! It shows us our BOUNDARIES!!

When we have LOVE really big and expanded, and we access our TRUTH or our anger, we are safe, protected and can actually OPEN bigger to love because we TRUST ourselves and our own self-worth.

Stay open even when You’re pissed:

Without getting into details, I was PISSED about something. Last time I got pissed, I shut down and closed off and wouldn’t talk to my partner. He didn’t like that and we talked about staying open with each other even when we are upset.

Staying Present in Love

So, the next time, I said all of the things I was thinking and stayed open, even though it felt very strange. And he stayed present in love with me and I stayed present in love with him. I told him I wanted to shout and scream and have a temper tantrum and push him, and he said, “No baby, we don’t push. We don’t ever push each other.”

And I said, “I know that, I’m not going to, but it’s how I FEEL.” And he just let me be mad and looked at me with so much love until I broke down into tears and said, “really I’m SAAAADDDD…” and then I cried and talked to him about what I was so sad about.

Bringing Out The Truth Deep Within You

Therefore, you can see that staying connected in the vibrational energy of love, even when you’re pissed, leads you to knowing yourself and your partner on a deeper level.  This is truly being connected.  This is allowing ourselves to be expressed, seen, and share love between us.  There is nothing to fix.  This is the most beautiful part.

The Other One Should Be Present in Love …

So many couples are arguing and fighting because they want the other one to BE THERE.  They want to feel loved, cared for, that they matter, and that they are important.  When we are running around fighting with each other, putting our walls up, and not letting ourselves truly connect with each other, this causes so much pain and suffering.  This is the opposite of what we all truly want, which is just to love and be loved deeply.

Recap of How to Use your Vibrational Energy of LOVE to deepen your relationships:

1) Love Heals Everything

2) Let down your walls

3) Know Your Boundaries

4) Stay open even when you’re pissed

Who wants homework that you can work on to tangibly make this happen in your life? Ok, quickly, before I show you what you can do, invite your friends and family to subscribe to beautifully authentic!

HOMEWORK:

OPEN your heart energy. Energy follows thought. So, if you don’t know how to do this, it doesn’t matter. It will happen anyway. Example of the hangers across the room. All it takes is your thought. If you THINK about it, it will happen. You just have to stay CONSCIOUS to it. SO, practice opening your heart and how it feels when you do it. Practice it with your cat or dog. Or people in the grocery store. Send your love out. When it hits them, watch them, they’ll turn around and look at you funny.

Of course, if you want more information on how exactly to do this right now, you can work with me one on one. I am creating workshops over the summer to teach self-love, and will be offering an on-line workshop in a few months, so stay tuned!

I appreciate you!!  THANK YOU for joining me!

Thank yourself for taking the time out of your busy schedule to take some ME TIME! You need it every day! Make sure you acknowledge yourself for doing something to support yourself, through learning, and caring about yourself! You are on the road to Self-love already! Congratulations!

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