Are you feeling your feelings? Are you anxious? Are you overwhelmed? Do you feel like you just can’t get your shit together? You’re probably not feeling your feelings.
Learning how to feel your feelings goes against what we are taught in our culture. Psychologists have boiled down feelings into a couple of major categories, and they argue about which ones are the BASIC emotions.
Do you feel your relationship sucks? DO you feel lonely? Underappreciated? Wishing you could CHANGE your partner? When we don’t love ourselves, we allow others to treat us badly.
Set boundaries, baby! Do you feel taken advantage of? Do you feel like a doormat? Are people walking all over you? What is a boundary? I remember not even knowing what boundaries were!
It’s NOT having a big wall where you tell everyone that you are right and they are wrong.
Put you first – self care versus selfish. Somewhere along the way you decided that taking time for yourself was selfish. I know, because I spent most of my life doing it. I would put the kids first, put my husband first, put my clients first, put my boss first, put making money first, even put the cat first!
Know your needs! Do you really know what you need? What is the difference between what you want and what you need? We aren’t talking about survival needs. What are you physical needs? Are you eating right? Are you sleeping enough? Are you getting enough exercise and fresh air? Share in the comments how you are doing with your physical needs.
What are emotional needs? Are you feeling your feelings?